Greatness comes from within, but you cannot acknowledge such greatness if surrounded by the wrong people. You cannot step outside your comfort zone and maximize your potential unless you have a robust support system or role models to push you toward glory and success.
However, this is not to say that you can blame others for the roadblocks and downfalls you experience along the way. You are responsible for your own actions, but most of the time, the people around you can cause subtle changes and influence your own perceptions and beliefs. Their negativity can be contagious—which is why you must bring positive people into your life.
Decide to Improve
Once you decide to improve, you can also pursue greatness by being with people with the same values. If you want to succeed in a specific pursuit, such as a new career, you have to be with people who also value their jobs. Surround yourself with those who aim for productivity and give their all daily.
Elevate your standards by being with two kinds of people only: successful ones and people who are becoming successful. Sharing the same energy with them will motivate and inspire you to improve.
Cut Off Toxic Relationships
Do you always feel drained when you’re around a specific group? They could be toxic for you, and you just refuse to acknowledge that. They are not necessarily bad people, but they are detrimental to your growth. Does your partner get on your nerves every day? Are your relationships with your relatives making you feel stressed and miserable? If yes, it might be time to take a break and rethink your relationships with them.
Burning bridges can be painful, but it will take some pressure off your chest. However, you have to make a decision and stay firm about it. Always remember that you don’t owe people anything and are free to let go of them if your mental health requires it.
Learn How to Identify Them
Identifying the right people is one of the initial steps toward greatness and confidence. How do you know they are right for you? Sometimes, it only takes a matter of gut feeling, but other times, it will require profound observation and reflection. People have various personalities, and just because they’re good for others doesn’t mean they’re good for you.
Surround yourself with visionaries. Get together with intelligent people. Hang out with hard workers. Talk to positive thinkers. Doing these will also teach how they keep themselves grounded and thriving. All it takes is a little effort to communicate with them.
Self-Motivation Helps
If you lack motivation, being with the right people helps. But remember that you can’t always be around other people. Sometimes you’re alone, and you have to get up on your feet by yourself. Motivating you 24/7 is not other people’s responsibility. You have to learn how to motivate yourself, and you can learn this from self-motivated people.
Being with self-motivated people can leave you in awe because of the burning passion and laser focus they have. They possess intrinsic motivation that they honed after years of a rollercoaster ride of failures and successes. Motivation keeps them satisfied and happy. Learn this from them, and in the long run, you’ll be able to motivate yourself without needing others.
Establish Healthy Boundaries
Saying no helps you filter out real friends from fake ones. It can also help you maintain healthy mental health since you do not have to stay in certain relationships that suck you dry or stress you out constantly. Staying firm with your beliefs and decisions can earn the respect of the people who would love to push you toward the greatness you deserve.
On the other hand, people who get offended or put off when you say “no” are people who cannot establish healthy boundaries themselves. This is a red flag that should not be tolerated. Staying authentic and sticking up for what you want will attract the right people and push the wrong ones away.
Participate in Support Groups
Aiming for success means talking to people in the same circle—who want to achieve the same goals. This is how you find a mentor who can teach you some strategies for success. They can share their input on how they overcame conflicts, how they formed healthy habits, and how they created relationships with successful people.
Listening to the experiences of the support group members can also give you a wider perspective on how success should be handled properly. Do not hesitate to share your experiences as well. Doing so can instill trust and confidence among the members, making you feel more welcome in this group of people striving for greatness.
Value People Who Care
There are people who genuinely care and those who want to see you fail. You will learn to distinguish the two through years of experience. People who genuinely care are those who want the best for you and want to see you flourish to your maximum potential. They will support you in several ways. They will give you constructive feedback that might hurt you—but evoke realizations that can change you.
Meanwhile, people who only claim they care about you will inhibit your growth. They will give you harmful advice. They will explain how impractical your goals are and try to talk you out of them. Stay away from them, and be with people rooting for you.
Love Yourself
Successful people avoid those who loathe themselves. The first step toward acceptance is self-positivity. Drop the negative self-talk. It’s time to accept and love yourself. Love yourself enough that you’re willing to drop all the negative habits that hinder you. Loving yourself is improving for your good. People can detect negativity, so try to be positive with yourself and love every aspect.
Welcome Change
Stepping out of your comfort zone is the most significant step to meeting good people. It’s time to go out and meet new people at seminars, conventions, and workshops that can increase your perspective and improve your judgment. Going out of your way to meet new people is the only way to filter people in your life. Being stuck in a bubble can impair your judgment and worldly views.
Surrounding yourself with great people involves risks you have to take. Although it can be stressful initially, you can work on yourself slowly and gear yourself towards this goal. Start one step at a time, and you’ll be surprised at the confidence and greatness you’ve achieved after being surrounded by good people.